Whenever people move on from one circumstance to another, they say those words. I think people usually mean it sincerely. I usually mean it sincerely when I say “we’ll still talk, it’ll be okay.” At least I think I do. It’s possible that whenever I say that I’m stepping into my motherly instincts…
Regardless, I think it’s hard to actually follow through on those three simple words, no matter how strong the intentions. Someone told me recently that Malcolm Gladwell talks in one of his books about the idea that a human being isn’t actually capable of maintaining every relationship in her/his life. As people move on to new circumstances, they meet new people; these new relationships become more relevant than the old ones and end up taking the focus when it comes to maintaining relationships.
It makes sense. It also makes me feel better about the fact that no matter how good my intentions are when I rest on the old cliche “let’s say ‘see you later’ because ‘goodbye’ is forever,” I find myself only knowing what’s happening in people’s lives because of what they have on facebook. Keeping in touch is a little easier to fake in the 21st Century with technology. It helps everyone to feel a little less guilty.
Last night, I saw a group of people who’ve come to mean a lot to me. I didn’t realize how much I missed them until I had arms flung around me and had high-pitched squeals making my ears ring. I’m really hoping that I don’t fail at “keep in touch” this time. But I’m already nervous. As these fantastic women told me how happy they were to see me, I responded with, “You’re acting like I died, I’ve just been at home for a month.”
Apparently I don’t just need to get better at staying in touch, I need to get better at sharing feelings too. Here’s hoping I can start to master both of these things… and cherish the process.