still alive. (wedding update)

Don’t worry – I’m still kickin.

This school year has been SOOOO unbelievably busy. I can’t believe it’s already almost half over! Even though it’s year two, only one hour of the day (for only this semester) is something I taught last year. Because of this, and because I’m involved in much more around the school, it’s as though I’m in the midst of year one all over again. It’s fantastic, and I still love (almost) every minute of it, but I’m still pretty tired most nights.

I’m not sure how many people expected me to be updating about wedding stuff on here, but I think I’ll do an overall recap in this post. Sorry, Mariclare – I’ll be better during the second half of planning!


As I said in my post about the engagement, we spent the weekend after the question was popped in Chicago with some friends. It was SO fun! We went to a few hot-spots in the area by our hotel and went to a late show at Second City Comedy Club. When we left the show, the stars had aligned and there was a limo waiting for us to head back that cost us about the same amount a cab ride would have. Talk about a quality way to end a celebration!




Soon after Josh proposed, we toured a few venues in downtown Milwaukee. I don’t have a super deep connection with the town I grew up in and he doesn’t either, so we thought we’d have our wedding somewhere we just really enjoyed. There were a couple weeks where we tossed around the idea of a destination wedding so we could just go and not worry about having a big to-do. Because we really want our grandparents to be present, and we weren’t sure that was a practical trip for them, we decided Wisconsin was the way to go.

We realized quickly that the cost of a wedding adds up fast, but the venue we decided on does a really good job of being up front about prices. This along with the fantastic view at the ceremony location sold us quickly.

The ceremony and reception will be at the Miller Room overlooking Lake Michigan. We really like the idea of having everything in one location, especially when parking is such a hard thing to come by in the city. The really nice thing is that we can have the outdoor ceremony we really wanted with only about a 500-foot walk for our guests to the cocktail hour/reception.


I wanted to come up with something somewhat creative but also personal to ask my bridesmaids to be in the wedding. In the end, I decided to give each of them a card with a little explanation of why I appreciate their friendship and why I want them to be with me at such an important time of my life. I took a picture to go on the front of each of the cards (Josh was suuuuper excited to be photographer) close to where the proposal happened and gave them to each of my friends when I saw them next.

Many were able to attend what they thought was just a celebration dinner in Milwaukee where I gave them their cards after we got our first drinks. I saw another the day after and gave her card to her as we were saying goodbye. The last was out of town so I had to get a little more creative with her delivery. She sent me a video right after she opened it talking about how excited she was – I love living in the age where technology makes that possible!


We created as similar card for our flower girl – the people who took our picture were actually celebrating their 30th anniversary and getting ready for their oldest son’s wedding in a couple weeks. We also gave her a coloring book with activities and pictures explaining what her job was on that day (our ring bearer got a similar one) and some flowers. At first, she was not interested. After we left her house, though, she told her parents she’d do it.



One of Josh’s groomsmen owns his own photography business, and he took some amazing engagement photos for us. We did one set in Milwaukee very close to where the big day will be taking place and went back again a few weeks later to take some with Sam.












In October, I went dress shopping with my mom, future mother-in-law, grandma, maid of honor, and one bridesmaid. It was a weird mix of overwhelming and fun. I found my dress that day, and I was so grateful to not have to drag out the ordeal for more than an afternoon. I was worried if it took too long that I’d just settle on something so that it could be done.

I ended up with multiple women helping me find the dress. The one who started with me as her client also had someone shadowing her. About halfway through the afternoon, she got sick and had to go home, so I had a new person (and the same one who was shadowing) take over. There were a few minutes where I panicked and thought we’d have to start over, but having one person consistent the whole time helped a lot I think. I’m not sure that I’d have found the dress if it hadn’t worked out this way.

I deleted all the pictures of me in dresses that weren’t the one I ended up choosing. I guess I didn’t think about posting fake ones when I was making room on my computer/phone!



I think that’s it! We’ve got a bunch of other little stuff figured out, but nothing worth posting about at this point.

Today I’m going to meet up with my maid of honor (yay!) to hang out for the afternoon and maybe figure out some other little details. I’m just happy to see her again because I haven’t since October. It’s hard figuring out times to see each other when we’re 6 hours away and she’s in grad school!



WE’RE ENGAGED!!! (and have been for almost a month, which is why my super great idea of a mini-post every day stopped almost immediately)


We were walking Sam by the lake, as we normally do, and I was yapping my ear off, as I normally do, and we got to an open area where Josh stopped. He told me that he had two confessions: 1. the weekend trip to Chicago a few days later, which had been planned for months, was a celebration trip (this is the point where I started wondering who in the crew we were going with had something to celebrate); 2. this walk with Sam wasn’t just a typical walk by the lake.

I almost died. Obviously I felt it necessary to verbalize this feeling and told him that my heart just sank to my stomach. Good thing I can handle serious moments so un-awkwardly.

He got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. And it was perfect. And I was the most excited I think I’ve ever been in my life. And I was still in work out clothes from an hour before. And I kept looking at my hand in shock. And I realized that 50 years from now I’ll still be wearing the same one. And I forgot that a wedding was even part of the ordeal. And I realized how truly happy I am to be officially starting a life together.

We called his parents and went to see mine. We had ice cream and about two sips of champagne (which had been in our fridge for WAY too long) to celebrate. We watched an episode of Sons of Anarchy. It was the most normal night of my life, and it wasn’t at all.

It was perfect.